I’ve Been Rubbish

I’ve been a really rubbish Sinful Sunday contributor of late. I’d lost my mojo with a lot of stuff but had tried to stick to at least posting every Sunday until last Sunday when I didn’t even manage that. Worse still I had stopped commenting or even looking at other people’s posts, I had retracted into my own little bubble feeling unsure of myself, feeling no value in anything I had to say, that I just kind of gave up.

Insecurity can be a real bitch but I’ve given myself a talking to and we’re starting a fresh from here and to mark it I’m doing something I rarely do and posting an unedited picture.

I could list a series of imperfections I see when I look at this picture but we’re all flawed right? We can all list things we don’t like about ourselves but we’re also all beautiful in our own way, in our flaws, in being completely ourselves.

Now I’m off to look and comment on all the amazing Sinful Sunday photos I’ve been missing out on, you can find them all by kissing the lips.

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Glass Half Full

As a rule I’m a fairly positive person, I try to look on the brightside and always see the good in people. I’ve always viewed this as a good thing (unsurprisingly) but found myself questioning this approach earlier this year.

I decided to dip my toe into the world of dating and found what I thought was a nice guy. This is where my glass half full attitude let me down, so determined was I to view him in a positive light that I ignored my gut. My gut told me fairly early on that something wasn’t right but I kept silencing her with my “he’s a nice guy, it’s all fine, you’re just out of practice with how this all works.” Of course my gut turned out to be right, he wasn’t such a nice guy after all.

When everything came to light, although I was angry at him, my overwhelming annoyance was at myself. My glass half full attitude had made me ignore my instincts. After a couple of days of berating myself I put it to bed, promising myself that in future I would listen to my gut and not let my need to look on the brightside warp reality. It seemed like a sensible approach but in practice not so much.

I didn’t think I was going to have to worry about it for a while, I wasn’t planning on returning to dating sites any time soon but then something unexpected happened.

One DM led to another and suddenly there’s a new man in my life and while this is definitely a wonderful thing it quickly highlighted some flaws in my previous plan. Without my positive outlook I was left feeling fairly cynical, fearful of letting someone in to just have the rug pulled from under me; but this is incredibly unhelpful when you are trying to get to know someone and massively unfair on them.

So I’ve scrapped the old plan and instead am going for what is always the best option, honesty. I explained to him what had happened, why I initially seemed so guarded and of course, because he’s a goodun, he got it; he reassured me and I believe him. And not because I’m just putting on positivity goggles but because I’m listening to my gut, and she is giving me only happy vibes.

I can’t and won’t let one bad experience turn me into a negative grump, that isn’t me and I have to be true to who I really am. I am a positive person with something to be happy about and that is a wonderful thing.

Lazy

I’ve got a bit lazy with pictures of myself lately, a lot of them seem to be me laying in bed. I need to get my imagination back in gear but as its Sunday morning and laying in bed is allowed, I’m going with it today.

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Insecurities

While I love taking pictures, they can so often highlight areas I feel insecure about. The idea of how I look in my head shattered, as I stare at a picture of myself wishing my boobs were firmer, my tummy was flatter, my lips neater.

It’s easy to be critical of ourselves but I have worked hard on learning to love myself over the last year so that now instead of sending pictures like this to the bin I can post them here and comfortably say this is me.

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