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No Squirt Required

I’ll be honest, up until maybe five years ago I didn’t even know the female ejaculation existed and when I did discover it I had no real desire to try and achieve it. I have seen plenty of people on Twitter talk about wanting to be able to ejaculate or make their partner squirt but the truth is, so far research seems to point towards the fact that not many women do ejaculate. 6-10% seems to be the current estimate although that could be incredibly inaccurate, research into the matter isn’t exactly high on scientists lists.
One thing I have learnt about the female ejaculation is that people still have very mixed views on the whole matter. Some believe it doesn’t really exist and others are misguided as to how it is supposed to be achieved. So I’ll let you into a secret, come closer…are you ready? There isn’t just one way! You know how we are all different? We’ll that applies to this just as much as it does everything else.
I asked Twitter for help with this matter, I asked if anyone had written or read anything on the female ejaculation that they passed on the link for me to have a read myself. Amid the lovely Twitter folk I of course got a bragger too “I know how to give it…” I’m sure what he meant to say is that he has been lucky enough to help partner achieve ejaculation and unless it was just a fluke then that’s great. If it.is something that they are able to repeat and enjoy together, it probably means he has learnt his partners body and her responses well. That doesn’t however mean he would be able to “give” me an ejaculation.
Some women seem to find clitoral stimulation is key to their squirting, others will swear it’s all about the G-spot. Personally I find for the best orgasm/ejaculation combo I need both. Also I don’t squirt, to me it seems more of a gush and I cannot achieve this through just stimulating my clit. I can however reach that point without it. The other thing I have found is I can’t do it alone, I have only ever gushed with assistance from my husband. I haven’t found a toy that can take me there but thankfully my husband has magic hands.
I can also say that my orgasms when I ejaculate are among the most intense orgasms I have had and the intensity has increased as I have learnt to let go more and let it happen. Having said all that the pleasure I experience in those moments really Has little to do with whether or not I have expelled a liquid from my vagina. I don’t feel better because of it, I wouldn’t be disappointed if a beautifully intense orgasm wasn’t accompanied by that gush.
So if you aren’t in that estimated 6-10% but are still having fabulous orgasms, don’t sweat it. We’re all still in the same boat, you’re just not having to argue over who gets the wet patch.